Love-Stories » my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Swaggababe .:. Tue, 14 Oct, 2014 - 02:05:31:am GMT

my boyfriend loves me but he can not stop cheating on me.i just noticed he has started banging my friends.please help me,what will i do?
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Muyiwaa2j .:. Tue, 21 Oct, 2014 - 02:54:11:am GMT

Is he the only guy in the world who can love you? If not then dump him cos there is always a betteq guy!
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Fazil123 .:. Tue, 21 Oct, 2014 - 11:04:11:am GMT

Quote from muyiwaa2j: Is he the only guy in the world who can love you? If not then dump him cos there is always a betteq guy!
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Well said, this is what needs to be realized and what need to be done done
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Paradigm .:. Tue, 21 Oct, 2014 - 03:14:35:pm GMT

I'm not sure you know the meaning of love. Anyone who loves you won't want to hurt your feelings either in your presence or absence. Just do the needful fast by looking for REAL LOVE.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Kenny11973 .:. Tue, 30 Dec, 2014 - 09:06:41:am GMT

I don't see any love signs in between you and the guy. You said he love you, there are things I believe these is doing that you think other guys can't do. It's best know by only and if you because of that and consider it love , babe I pity your life. At the end of the day you will end as a punching bag because he do not love but you do . I believe you know what to do.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Funmo .:. Mon, 23 Feb, 2015 - 03:59:53:pm GMT

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR BOYFRIEND CHEATS
Cheating is the number problem of most relationships and marriages. And it happens for a whole lot of reasons, and often times, the female folks are the victims. This is what leads to heartbreaks. There are many ways to approach solving this problem. If your boyfriend cheats on you, here are few things to do.
BREAKUP
This is a hard decision to take, but it is the most efficient. The reason why you are being cheated on is that you aren't good enough for him. Why not leave his ass for someone who appreciates you enough to make you his one and only.
TALK
This is also a way to resolve cheating. Talk to your boyfriend. He might be shocked to know that you are aware he is cheating on you. Let him see (why) you are not a second option. Communication solves issues a lot. Ask him why he is cheating. If you consider this option, and it doesn't work out, WALK AWAY.
BE A BETTER YOU
If you know the reason why he cheats is because he sees a deficiency in you, try adjusting and making up for that you lack. He might become convinced and not look elsewhere since you provide him with all he needs. But some men can be plain covetous, if you stepping up your game still doesn't work, WALK AWAY.
DEFINE THE PURPOSE OF THE RELATIONSHIP
You don't expect him to take you serious if he doesn't take the relationship serious. Get to know the purpose of the relationship. Is it heading towards marriage or it is just for fun? Knowing which is which is discourse for another day. But get to know the purpose it is why he cheats most times. If the purpose is marriage, and he cheats, chances are that he will become an adulterer after marriage, you might want to consider the WALKING AWAY choice. It is better to break up a relationship than to end up in a merry marriage likely to end in a divorce.

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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Papafa .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:32:16:pm GMT

It's honestly your choice. If 3 years invested into a relationship is important to you to hold onto then you should. If his cheating is unacceptable to you, then you should move on. If you want to stay with him, and are afraid that he will cheat again, you both need to sit down and have a very heartfelt deep talk about where your relationship was, is now, and where it is going in the future.

If he leaves gifts for you every day that's normally a sign or grief or remorse. It's an unconscious way of saying "I'm guilty, please forgive me"... This is taught by going through even your basic psychology class.

You have to make choices for your own relationship based on how you feel. No single person that answers here can tell you how YOU feel, and what you want to do. Do what your heart tells you.

Also, You could be happy that it was at least a girl. That way you know for sure that he's not completely going to give up on you. (smiles)
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Berlins .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:33:06:pm GMT

That decision is up to you and the end of the day.
If you want him back, then give him another chance, but don't use the fact that he cheated on you as a weapon everytime you have an argument, it'll just destroy your relationship anyway. If he cheats again, then leave him and move on!!
If you don't want him back, make it clear to him about that and don't leave him hanging on, that way you can both move on and be happy.
Good luck, take care
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: DublinIisa .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:34:13:pm GMT

first just dont respond or call him. If he asks you whats wrong, just tell him you're not quite over it yet and you still need sometime to think. He should be begging for you to forgive him. He should be leaving more things at your doorstep, just desperate for you to forgive him. Just watch the sings and use your judgement. If you feel like he doesn't care that you havent forgiven him yet, than hes not really a good bf. If he's really botheres by the fact that you havent forgiven him yet, then maybe give him another chance. If he tells you that your over-reacting, tell him that what he did really hurt you, you have a right to react! just be patient and use your judgement
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Tallgirl .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:38:05:pm GMT

What is wrong with you people? Why do you need to even ask?

He's an untrustworthy douche-bag!

Just because you admit that you did something does NOT cancel out the fact that you ACTUALLY DID IT!

He only confessed to it to make himself feel less guilty. He wasn't trying to do you a favor...but coincidentally he did! He let you know exactly what kind of person he is.

Don't be a pushover with no self-respect. Move on!!!!


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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: HotCakeAt43 .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:39:02:pm GMT

We all know you will get angry - he will beg and cry - then you will patch up - but you just cant trust him again
This does not mean that there are no ideal relationships but please dont make your ideal expectations put yourself in intense stress because you deserve to be happy.

If you found out that your partner is cheating, here is the DRILL:
0) All Cheaters are EXPERT LEVEL drama kings
1) First of all CALM down and do not get angry - this one takes time so dont be hard on yourself
2) Stop spying on your partner, it is a waste of time because you already know that he is cheating then what is the point of spying
3) Please stop expecting anything from your partner and expectations create problems
4) Stop blaming yourself or anyone else for this, as he is doing for thrill and not because of you
5) Focus on your work and finances, so that you can get attention of other genuine men
6) Give yourself time to heal get along with your friends, distract yourself
7) Find another partner

If you can't find another partner, then read below:

I had similar cheating experience with my boyfriend and with my husband both. So I had no choice but to do a research to understand from their mind why do they do it. My boyfriend was a jerk but my husband is very smarter jerk and knows that it will be his loss if we get separated. After 2 years of drama and 4 years of pain, it took me 6 long years to come out of my safety zone and try to feel and think the way cheaters feel and think. I started thinking and doing the same thing what he had been doing. So basically I understood that cheaters do not dislike their first partner, they just want to feel and experience different thrills. So blaming yourself is pointless. It is just like having an alltime favourite lipstick shade which you like to wear everywhere, but still you get attracted to new shades of lipsticks everytime you see a new color. Did you ever ask yourself, how can I cheat my favourite lipstick shade which I ideally like to wear through the rest of my life. Damn it.. the new lipstick shade is soooo good!!!

I have cheated multiple times now and I liked the thrill, the good feelings and the comfort I received. Well it always does not work with all your sex partners but sometimes you do meet someone who is better than the rest. But I loved it. Now I can understand how my husband thinks and he is very jealous because he is not able to find good sex partners while I have become a pro in it. The transition was not easy and it took me very long time. But now I love the new me. I had to fight with my idealistic life and the perfectionist expectations. It takes time to break the barrier and come out of it. You will love yourself, you will feel more confident and most of all free. And ofcourse deny all accusations of cheating by anyone, just like your partner does, never agree that you cheated even if you got caught just make some excuses. Its a done deal - take it or leave it and stick to it!

The idea is not about screwing the family system or culture but more over to make yourself happy. Dont be hard on yourself by having so much expectations about a perfect mate. Try to accept the fact and instead of getting angry on your partner try to make yourself happy. If your partner makes you sick, stay away from him. Once you feel you are balanced, calm, comfortable and ready for new relationship. Then you can try searching for your new partner again.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Vjoat .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:40:15:pm GMT

Well since this was a while ago, I think you should just give him another chance. But first he need to proves to you that he loves you and I think he is doing that right now. I think that if he does it again then you should just leave him because he doesn't love you. Right now it sounds like you guys are straight and you just move on. You just follow your heart, just don't let him take over you. All of this is up to you. But you do need to talk to him. Conversation and trusting each other are the keys to a good healthy relationship.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Kissy .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:41:24:pm GMT

Ask him why he did it. He did tell you the truth and he's making an effort to get you back. I think you should talk to him, ask him why he did it. Think about whether you can trust the guy after this. If you can't no matter what he says, leave him. You may love him, but a relationship is nothing without trust. i amm sure you know that. If you do trust him still and he tells you why, if its something you can both work on, then don't break up. You've been together for 3 years and he did tell you. He obviously feels remorse. Talk to him.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Stara .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:42:54:pm GMT

Dump him. He leaves things for you just to win you over so he can just get away with it again and again.
My ex had a one night stand with someone else more than twice his age. Even if it was just the once, I knew I could never trust him again. He's been out with a lot of my friends and cheated on them too.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Sambadancer .:. Thu, 05 Mar, 2015 - 03:46:05:pm GMT

It all depends on how you feel do you still love him and trust him ?
or are you always going to be thinking about him with her ?

But he did take the time to make a build a bear that's not an easy place for a guy to go into ,I think he's trying to apologize he shouldn't do it with gifts he should do it with words
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: DublinIisa .:. Mon, 23 Mar, 2015 - 05:34:18:pm GMT

So even though this is kind of mean you should do it
take him to a nice restaurant, once you are all done with your meal (and dessert) if you want to make him pay more that when you pretend to get a text message from your friend. Shout out load (load enough the tables next to you can hear you) and start crying that he is cheating on you. After you have totally embarrassed him storm out of there, so he has to pay for the meal (order expansive food) then have a friend pick you up

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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: HotCakeAt43 .:. Mon, 23 Mar, 2015 - 05:35:15:pm GMT

Honey, first calmly talk to him. Find out what exactly happened. Be careful though, he might try to convince you by saying he loves you all that. If you feel like he is not being honest with you then you shouldn't waste even a second to leave him. Honesty is the most important thing in any relationship. And honey if he is cheating on you, it means he is dos respecting you. Do you think you can be happy with him if you stay in a relationship with a guy who is honest or doesnt respect you ? I don't know your guy.You know him the best. If you believe he will stay faithful now on forgive him and if you think he wont then leave him. Choice is yours.
That's the spirit girl..You deserve much better. Cheating is one thing but lying about it....that's an absolute NO. I think you made the right choice. Good luck honey and much love smile

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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Kissy .:. Mon, 23 Mar, 2015 - 05:36:13:pm GMT

Dump him. He is not wort it. If someone looks for someone else while they are with a person, they are not worth your time. I know this sucks. I'm going through this myself and I got to say that I can't forgive. Might be a little harsh but it's not like they were any nicer by them cheating on you. You did nothing wrong but try to love this person. They are others and yes hard to find. You made a mistake, you will make more but you have to take care of yourself. At the end of the day, you go back home and sleep by yourself, and all you have to be worried about now is to be comfortable with who you are now. Don't chase people, replace them, and the next one has to be better than the last one when necessary. One day you will run into the one you cannot replace. You have a whole life ahead of you, bills to pay, things to accomplish, do not stay on this another minute.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Tallgirl .:. Mon, 23 Mar, 2015 - 05:38:01:pm GMT

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. But you should really leave and find someone better that actually loves you. If he's to blind to see what he has with you then it's his loss. I can tell that you really love him by your description but sometimes in relationships guys can be very persuasive with their words just to get what they want. I've kinda had the same thing go on with my boyfriend for the past few weeks and I can tell you that when I told him I wasn't gonna do this anymore I felt very relieved. Give yourself time to cry and eat ice cream and listen to sad music. But it sounds like you're to good for him if you ask me!! And never let him see you sweat!!! If you want him back act like you don't care!!! When you see him make small talk and then act like nothings wrong. It'll drive him crazy!!! But I do agree with the other people's comments. Once a cheater always a cheater. And if you go back and just welcome him with open arms he's gonna think that you're weak and that it's okay to do that to you again. So in the long run you might just be hurting yourself more going back to him..but do what you feel is best for you!! And also give it time. Think about it and ask yourself if it's really worth it. Hope this helped!! Good luck!!! And keep your head up!! (:
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Sambadancer .:. Mon, 23 Mar, 2015 - 05:40:11:pm GMT

If this has happened it is too late now. You have choices, which could include dumping him with no comeback. Or you could say there is plenty of time to find a long term partner. You could have a wild time and gain some experience with others before you settle down. If you like the guy, you could carry on and see others too - you might enjoy it.
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Re: my boyfriend is a womanizer!!!what do i do? by: Nico-gold .:. Tue, 26 May, 2015 - 11:58:04:pm GMT

Lock him up
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